Being a young mom is tough – there’s a lot of pressure from society alone that makes it an unfortunate situation to be in. Not saying that it really is an unfortunate situation to be in, but we can’t deny that that’s one of the many connotations that come along with that title. I can totally understand and empathies with folks who feel this way. I was definitely one of them, and I would be a liar if I didn’t admit that. Being a mom during the prime of your young adult life is scary.
Here’s an honest list of things that immediately came to mind when I found out I was pregnant:
1. I can’t by myself clothes anymore.
2. I can’t by myself shoes anymore. [Yes, these two deserve their own listing. Feel free to judge me.]
3. I can’t smoke weed anymore.
4. I can’t turn up or get trashed, period.
5. I’ll have absolutely NO FREEDOM.
6. I can’t study abroad like I want to.
7. SCHOOL!? WTF IS GOING TO HAPPEN WITH SCHOOL?!
8. I’m not fully happy with my current partner, having a baby can’t possibly be an option.
9. Babies are gross.
10. I’m going to be fat & have stretch marks. Body. Ruined. For. Life.
I’m going to end this list at 10 because I swear, this list can go on forever. I’ll be the first to admit – this list is pretty sad. The only thing that made sense for me to worry about was school & boyfriend issues, but all that extra junk? Pathetic. I’m a bit embarrassed writing this up, but I want my blog, and every post in my blog, to be honest. I won’t lie, it actually feels great letting all of these thoughts out. You should try it sometime.
My priorities in life did not include a baby. I never even held a baby up until the day I gave birth. Crazy, right?
Even though I was scared, I’m beyond blessed and glad that my partner and I decided to keep the baby. It’s been one hell of a ride – for both of us – but I see all of the positivity that followed our little blessing.
Here are 7 benefits I’ve gained from being a 21 year old mom in no specific order:
1. No, you can’t buy yourself clothes or shoes as often, but spending your money on making a little person look super fly, is just as satisfying.
2. My thought’s on getting ‘turnt’ in general: I love the feeling I get after having a few drinks & taking a few hits from a joint. Just keeping it real. But I never realized how time consuming getting wasted on the weekends really was, up until I didn’t do it anymore. It’s cool to occasionally get trashed with your homies, but the time you have is precious. Use every minute to it’s full potential, in whatever it is you think you need to work on. For me, that was, and still is, building my own brand & business. I’d much rather spend my weekends at home with my baby, and then working after-hours on my future.
3. I found my reason for life. I was a very distracted, undriven young woman before I got pregnant. I procrastinated at school & work, and literally half assed every project that needed to get done. Having my baby opened my eyes into a new part of life – the part of constantly growing and achieving health, wealth, success and happiness in every aspect of my life. That’s some powerful stuff, if you ask me.
4. Self Love. This is definitely my favorite benefit I’ve gained thus far being a young mom. I have a little girl who looks up to me. I’m her first and main role model. I need to show her self love, and self empowerment because I want her to be a girl boss. I’ve never been happier with myself, up until this moment of my life, and trust me, this feeling is complete contentment all the damn time. It’s life changing, promise.
5. Patience is my second favorite benefit I’ve gained thus far being a young mom. It has come in handy when waiting to cross the street, dealing with my partner and child, and even my health & fitness. Patience is necessary for a happy, successful life. I believe everyone should have this quality.
6. When you have kids young, that means when your kids are old enough to live their own lives, you’ll still be young enough to get down and dirty. Not that kind of dirty, but you’ll still have the time & energy to do all of those crazy things – like travel. I plan on traveling the world once my kids are old enough to live their own life. And that’s something I’m looking forward too. Oh, and you’ll be able to keep up with your grandkids, that’s always fun!
7. The most serious benefit I’ve gained from being a young mom? Appreciating life as a whole. No one really remembers the milestones they go through as a baby. You don’t realize how amazing life & growth really is until you witness it. The little things: watching my daughter crawl for the first time, walk for the first time, watching her examine and try to understand things that she touches, hears, see’s, it’s amazing. It’s something that I feel like I could never express with words – it’s something you have to witness to understand. Life is a beautiful thing, and being able to bring life into the world, no matter what your age is, really, is a blessing.
I’m a believer in things happening for a reason and I thank the universe everyday for bringing my little girl into my life. I never saw myself as a young mom, but am beyond proud to say that I embraced the challenge and fell in love with the experience. I’ve grown on so many levels since being a mom, and I will forever appreciate these experiences and lessons.